Honesty
***Raising hand feverishly***
Can I ask the class a question?
***Teacher acknowledges me***
How honest is too honest? Like is there a way to be honest and not be an ass? I'm really being sincere with this question. Because I pissed off a friend by being too honest. Part of me wishes I re-worded my answer, but another part doesn't. We were and are honest with each other. I may answer a question honestly kicking and screaming, but I do. And sometimes I'm so damn blunt. Like I don't have that filter that senses when something I say or do could potentially be damaging. I'd kinda like to have that.
***sits back down and waits for the class to answer.
posted by Jarrod at 6:02 PM
7 Comments:
It is often more about how you say something rather than what you are saying. You can be honest without being ugly with your words. Most people teeter on that rude/honest border. You just have to know your audience well enough to gauge how they will respond to harsh words...
8:32 AM
I'm with miss. Honesty is always best no matter how they may take it... however HOW you say it may ease alot of the fallout afterwards. But at the very least, you know that you were honest, and that's the very least you could be for yourself and for someone else
11:29 AM
Honesty is ALWAYS preferred, I think. But to hide behind the absence of a "sensitivity filter" is dishonest. You know what would hurt you. So when push comes to shove, use that as your measuring stick. You don't have to coddle people to be forthcoming.
12:03 PM
I'm with X.
But I honestly think most if not all my friends are friends with me, because they know I am unapologetically honest. It takes a damn good reason for me to sensor myself. Though most of my truths are grounded in humor, you always know when I'm being damn straight.
12:19 AM
You are from New Jersey. You don't know any better than to be rude and an ass...lol...
No I'm kidding. Always be honest. But like the others said there's a way to say something to lessing the sting. But if you've always been honest w/ your friend they should be used to it and not expect anything different from you.
11:43 AM
Cmill is right...it's something about Jersey... We just want to be so honest that we forget who the hell we are talking to.
But in reality you have to gain some type of filter...just know when to throw it up and when not to.
1:05 PM
The saying is definitely true: honesty is always the best policy; however, I think too often we forget that when we are honest with someone, they may give us an honest response back that we may not like. So if your friend was genuinely hurt by what you said, and they told you, that was their honesty being presented back to you. And if y'all are really friends, you'll be better for it in the end.
11:19 PM
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